One of the tragedies that we have to face as humanity is death. There is no pain in dying. However, it is present when affected by a loved one’s death. It is when we are paying the last respects that we begin to understand some perspectives. It dawns on us that if we had given our attention to some instincts, we would have made some difference. Reminiscing over our past associations, we begin to wish we had some power over this curse.
The case is the same with our pets. Once we bring them to our homes, they become part of the family. We may take time to blend with them, but our bond develops and finally becomes stronger sooner than later. That’s why you hear some people say that they’d better go hungry than to have their pets starving. But death is inevitable. When we least expect it, death steals them from us.
In this article, we look at a situation where death robs you of your dog, and you didn’t get to say goodbye. Dealing with loss is difficult. However, it’s more difficult when you have some regrets, like not saying goodbye. Join us as we bring your thoughts to life and also give you solutions.
Before We Proceed Any Further
Before we kick-off, receive our condolences. A hound is a man’s best friend. We suppose you made a lot of memories together. Therefore your whole family is affected as a whole. You don’t even know what to do with your dog’s stuff.
But through it, find strength and work on bettering your life. You can even decide on getting a replacement. We’ll talk about that later, though. Now that we’ve got that off our chest let’s proceed.
Don’t Blame Yourself
When grieving for your dog, thoughts of guilt will always get the better of you. And that is because you feel that it would be better to strengthen your hound during their last hour. Since you were emotionally attached, you would have wanted to be there to encourage him that everything was going to be alright. Perhaps your picture of the dying hour is of a worn-out dog, scared and helpless.
However, that may not be the real story. You know by now that man and dogs are birds of the same feather. Right? If that is the case, and it is, that means that we share similar traits. One of those is that we do not want to see our loved ones suffer emotionally when on our deathbed. As a result, many people have shared experiences where the departed loved one waited for them to leave the room.
That can explain why fate did not allow you to say goodbye. Your dog was saving you from the scene that never leaves our memory. Therefore it’s not fair for you to live in that agony.
It’s Okay to Cry, Just Let It All Out
While it is not fair to blame yourself, you should, however, allow yourself to mourn. Have you ever heard of the saying that grief is harboring pain, whereas mourning is letting that pain out? Well, it’s true, and that is why you need to cry as much as you want. In the process, you may even lose your appetite, which is also not strange. When it hits you even harder, you will think of isolating yourself from people.
However, do not let this situation drain life out of you. As hard as the situation may seem, you have to move on. Follow on to learn about that.
Life Has to Continue, but Be Patient
Despite the state you are in, you have to understand that life has to continue. And that begins by gradually but continuously distracting yourself. Now, that cannot be easy, especially when every nerve in your body does not want it. But still, it is the best remedy for your situation. You can take some walks, watch movies, spend time with your family and friends.
However, remember to be very patient with yourself. You cannot just move on in a moment; that would be manipulation. Give yourself a victory for each day. That way, given time, your life will be back. Then you can decide what to do with the gap your Rover left.
When You Need a Professional
Since you were not anywhere close when your dog was dying, guilt can have the best of you. However, the impact guilt has on people depends on how they mourn. To some, thoughts of committing suicide begin to crop in. That may seem extreme, but it’s true.
So, when you begin to get these suggestions to end your life, It’s time to see a professional. Fortunately, help is available when you need it.
Wrapping It Up
If your dog died and you didn’t get to say goodbye, that can be tough on you. However, it would help if you did not blame yourself. Take time to mourn since it is healthy. But even as you do that, remember to be fair to yourself. Distract yourself by being active and engaging in fun things. When thoughts of suicide begin to come in, it’s time to talk to a professional.